An LDS perspective on moving from childless to childfree living.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Watching a Birth

I went visiting teaching yesterday.  Visiting Teaching is a program for the women of the church where two women are assigned to go visit other women in the ward.  You get to know them, offer assistance, and bring a short spiritual message. 

This is an area of the church where I don't fit and where I'm sure the Relief Society President has a hard time figuring out where to put me because I don't have children.  My companion has four children and is expecting her fifth grandchild in a couple of weeks.  The woman we visited yesterday has five children and is expecting her 11th grandchild in a couple of months.  Both of them got talking about having witnessed the birth of one of their previous grandchildren and how they will probably get to do so again.  They went on and on about what a wonderful experience it was to watch a baby be born.  I had nothing to add to the conversation and felt very uncomfortable.

Am I missing out?  I have not witnessed a birth.  I don't expect I will ever be invited to witness a birth.  I will not give birth.

Any suggestions on what I could have said? 

1 comment:

  1. Honestly, these are always awkward times for me too. I had one VT companion who also never birthed any children, and she absolutely loved births, she wanted to be a Doula, so some people dig it and some don't. I kind of witnessed, at least I was present, for my nephew's water birth (you don't see a ton with that), and truth be told it scared the bejeebes out of me and I felt rather upset about it for a long time after that - but my sister hemorrhages so it wasn't the easiest experience. When I found myself in your shoes often back in Utah valley I would just smile and nod, and try to relate to any other kinds of experiences with kids that I did have, with nieces or nephews, or babysitting, etc. It tended to be hard and sometimes not very fun, but you can get through it. Maybe your past experience as a teacher could come into play there? Or maybe look back to health class in high school... admittedly I slept through that video. I also tended to try and change the subject to something with kids that I knew or break in with the spiritual lesson. Hang in there, sending hugs! :)