An LDS perspective on moving from childless to childfree living.

Sunday, August 24, 2014

A Funeral and A Wedding

In the last week, we attended the funeral of my uncle and the wedding of DH's niece.  Both of these events bring out thoughts on being childfree.

My uncle never married nor had children.  He died young from cirrhosis of the liver.  He was not active LDS, but he did appreciate good music, and I had the opportunity to play the piano for the funeral.  My mom and her other brother had to make all of these arrangements.  My mom and my sister have been cleaning out his apartment.  He left no will and did not have enough money for his final services.

I have thought a lot about this.  I am most grateful that I have DH.  He is my rock!  After all he has been through, his love and friendship is so important to me.  Because of his leukemia, we have all of the final documents and preparations done.  We have money set aside for those services.  We have outlined who of our nieces and nephews will receive certain items and what we want done with the rest.  We have a trust so as to avoid probate. I feel we are more prepared than my uncle was, but only because we made those preparations 11 years ago when we thought DH was going to die.

Oquirrh Mountain Utah Mormon Temple

A wedding of someone in the next generation just means there is a greater chance of my becoming a great-aunt sooner rather than later.  I just don't know how I will react to that!  The sealing ceremony in the Oquirrh Mountain Temple was beautiful, and DH's niece and her new husband looked so happy.  They will be good for each other.  This time was different than when another niece got married two years ago and when my cousin got married last year.  Then, "multiply and replenish the earth" hurt to hear.  I enjoyed the ceremony, because it brought to mind when DH and I were married 18 years ago.  This time I remembered the excitement, love, and joy from our sealing!

I have to be grateful for where DH and I are on our CF journey.  In the past year and a half, I feel we have made great strides toward acceptance and even enjoyment of living CF.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Neighborhood Party

I haven't posted in a long time! I spent a week in Denver at a national conference. DH and his nephew came with me to go fishing while I was in meetings. It was nice to have them there in the evenings.

I came home to a city in our large suburban school district wanting to split from the current school district. We went through a school district split 5 years ago, and I spent the month of July attending meetings to speak for teachers against another split.

The school where I teach was moved from a traditional school calendar to a year round calendar, so my new school year started July 28 with 33 sixth graders!  I'm already looking forward to my first break in October.

To the neighborhood barbecue. We are in a new and growing area where there have been several families move in over the past few months, so it was good to go meet all the new neighbors. Everyone had kids, except DH and me and our next door neighbors who got married in May. Two were pregnant. I found it interesting that of the 17 kids there, 13 are boys.  The thing that was great about the get together was that no one asked us about kids. This has been true of our ward as well. I was so grateful for this! It made me feel valued as an individual and a couple. I also enjoyed communicating with one 18 month old as she shared her blueberries with me.

I feel like things are improving in how we face our childfree life.