An LDS perspective on moving from childless to childfree living.

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Our Agency Closes

We closed our adoption file over a year ago now, but the adoption services part of LDS Family Services will no longer match birth parents with adoptive parents.  This was in the news here yesterday.

The news article states, "LDS Family Services, however, was set up on a different model, she said. "It was designed toward the 16-year-old who got in trouble and went to her [Mormon] bishop," Pope said. "That doesn’t happen anymore. They don’t place. They parent."  Maybe this philosophy, that was not disclosed to us as hopeful adoptive parents, is part of the reason we were never chosen.  I know they tried to adapt over the years to the changing demographic of birth parents. 

When DH's aunt and uncle adopted through LDS Family Services over 50 years ago, they were put on a list, and when their name came to the top, they received the next baby to fit their criteria.  Adoptions were closed.  It was not birth parent choice.  We know this wasn't the best way to handle adoptions either. 

With over 600 waiting couples and between 200-300 adoptions per year, the article states that many couples have waited more than three years.  We were on the list for four years and NEVER had contact with a birth mom that came through them.  Maybe it is best that LDS Family Services does not handle adoptions any more.  I try not to be bitter, but we really didn't have a good experience.

2 comments:

  1. I wonder if this is happening to agencies around the country. A sad day indeed that wonderful couples that would be perfect parents cannot be. May you find peace.

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  2. So sorry to hear about this latest development, Jen. I can fully understand your feelings here...

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