An LDS perspective on moving from childless to childfree living.

Sunday, March 30, 2014

"Why Didn't You?"

I am a mentor to a new teacher.  While he is new to the profession, he is 40, so he does have some life experience.  We were talking on Friday about a training he attended and how he would like to share that information with the other teachers on the staff.  He was asking my advice on how to approach our principal.  We talked for a while, then he asked if I had ever considered becoming a principal.  I told him that quite a few years ago (like 7-8), I did look in to the administrator programs at three local universities.  I told him which one I liked best. 

He then asked, "Why didn't you?"  I paused for a moment to consider my answer.  I realized and said that I did not pursue an administrator certificate, because I was waiting for the baby that never came.  He, of course, asked if we had thought about adoption.  I explained that over the course of seven years, we had spent tens of thousands of dollars on treatments to become PG and on becoming approved for adoption, a failed adoption, and renewing our adoption HS.  He then said, "I'm so sorry.  I had no idea." 

We closed our adoption file a year ago this week.  Since then, I have been approached about running for president of my state education association in two years.  I have had to adjust my life to reflect my CF status and think that taking advantage of this opportunity in my career would be great!  I could go back to school to become an administrator, but I feel the association path is the right one for me at this time.


  1. Go for it Jen! You will be a great leader of the association!! Lead the country in education!

    1. Hi Colleen,

      I appreciate your encouragement. It is thanks to my current role as local association president that I was able to meet you!


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  3. Oh yes, I agree, go for it! One of the benefits of the freedom of no longer being tied to the IF treadmill is that we can pursue what we want.