After our failed adoption, we broadened our outreach. We added ParentProfiles, sent links to our online profiles to family and friends, and just let everyone know we were looking to adopt. We had pretty steady interest through ParentProfiles, about one solid lead a month for 18 months, then the contacts stopped. We had not leads through LDS Family Services in the four years we were approved. When three months had passed since we had a lead through ParentProfiles, I started looking at the search capabilities that might be leaving us out. It isn't a specific search, but once I hit 40 years old, prospective BPs were not contacting us any more. I don't have evidence, just that nobody wanted to talk to us when both of us showed 40 in the age box on the About Us page.
So that is really where we ended. We maintained our ParentProfiles account until we closed our adoption file, and we had no contacts through that site for the last two years we were on.
Making the decision to live CF was not easy, and it came over time. We had been discussing it for about six months before really ending our journey to become parents. All I know it that now there is a sense of peace surrounding our choice, a peace that hadn't been there for quite some time prior.